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When I was a teacher at the San Carlos Charter Learning Center, our school spent two years studying Social Emotional Learning (SEL). Parents and teachers read, reread, and discussed Daniel Goleman’s book “Emotional Intelligence; Why it can matter more than I.Q.” We also brought in experts to train us how to teach SEL better.
Am I an expert at E.I. versus I.Q.? No way! But I do think about it a lot.
What I’ve learned as a parent is that it’s really hard to teach kids how to handle somebody “pushing your buttons”. Some people naturally handle this better than others, I think. Other’s need help learning effective strategies for dealing with interpersonal stress.
A book that has got me thinking about E.I. all over again with new meaning, is Dale Carnegie’s classic “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. I’ve been reading it on my Kindle.
What Carnegie was describing seems to be SEL at its best. (Click here for the summary on Wikipedia.)
Right now I’m thinking of ways to use Carnegie’s ideas in my own parenting. I’d like for my children to do all that he suggests; begin in a friendly way, show genuine interest in other people, smile, see things from another person’s point of view, readily admit when they are wrong, and so much more.
That’s why we now have two mason jars on our kitchen table, and popcorn at the ready.
This week, the SEL skill my family is focusing on is Kindness. When I notice my kids being kind, I add some popcorn kernels to their jars. When the jars are filled up, we are popping the corn and watching a movie together.
This popcorn trick is an old-standby a lot of teachers use in the classroom to encourage good behavior. But I’m hoping it will work here at home too.
Stay tuned for more of our SEL journey this summer. Each week we’ll be focusing on something new.
If you have any thoughts about Daniel Goleman or Dale Carnegie, please chime in. I love discussion!