I’m a big believer in behavior modification through token economies. I find that it’s really easy to catch my kids being bad, but it’s much harder to remember to catch them being good. A token system helps me be a better Mom.
So when my kids started squabbling like cats and dogs this past week, I decided to get creative. I made each kid their own stamp book to help us all identify and acknowledge positive sibling interactions, as opposed to negative ones.
Here’s how it works. Everybody gets their own color stamp. Bruce can stamp in Jenna’s book, Jenna can stamp in Bruce’s book, and my husband and I can stamp in both.
When we catch somebody being an extra nice brother or sister, we give that person a stamp.
The boxes on the right are for kid stamps. The page on the left is for mom and dad stamps.
An interesting note is that the first day we did this it took my kids until 9 PM to realize that they could seriously cooperate and give each other stamps. By day two, the kid stamp section was already filled in by lunch!
We’re not going to do this system forever; just until September. But boy, has it made a big difference already.
What about you? Are sibling squabbles and issue in your house?