Love No Matter What by Brenda Garrison is a Christian parenting book that goes against the genre in a radical way. Instead of promising that A + B = C, she says that sometimes parents can do everything right and that their kids might still turn out mixed up, screwed up, or worse.
I think that’s a really powerful message. Your kids’ choices are not your choices. Just because your kids are on a roller coaster of emotions doesn’t mean you’re on the roller coaster too.
But here’s why I’m giving this book a 2.
It’s all about Garrison’s definition of what the wrong path is. Specifically, it is the example she uses of a daughter named Andrea who “chooses to follow a lesbian lifestyle”. Garrison praises her parents for continuing to love Andrea and refusing to ever meet her girlfriend.
This made me so upset that I decided to wait a week before I wrote this review so that I could calm down.
My message is directly to Andrea.
Andrea, I am member of the United Methodist Church. I believe God made you exactly how you were meant to be made. You were made in God’s image, just like me.
I want you to know that there are leaders in my church who are not just praying for you, but fighting for you too. We are heartbroken that your parents and so many members of the Christian community continue to hurt you. We will continue to speak up on your behalf for as long as it takes.
P.S. I received a free copy of this book from Booksneeze, in exchange for my honest opinion and review.