When Your Parent Becomes Your Child by Ken Abraham is a book about losing a loved one to Dementia. But it is more than that. It would not be hyperbole to say that the author Ken Abraham has written his heart in book format.
His words were an honor to read.
This is one of those books that you can’t put down. It’s one of those books that make you feel like you know the author and that you should call him up right now. Don’t worry, I won’t! But I felt like the very spirit of his mother was living for me in those pages. It was a privilege to meet her.
I’ve read several books about Alzheimers, but none about Dementia. Mr. Abraham’s mother suffered from Dementia brought upon by a series of mini strokes. Lots of embarrassing and heart wrenching things happened to her due to her disease. It probably took a lot of courage for all of her sons to give their brother the go ahead to write this book. So I would like to say thank you to your entire family for sharing this story.
If I could give this book six stars I would. But if I had one criticism it would be that I think the family is too hard on itself. In the beginning of the book there is a lot of “If we only had realized….In hindsight etc.” As an outsider looking in it seems to me that each family member had a different piece of the puzzle. A son in Tennessee knew “A”. A daughter-in-law in Florida knew “B”. A neighbor in Pennsylvania knew “C”. If you put all of those puzzle pieces together sure, you might have recognized what was happening a whole lot earlier. It’s not your fault that you couldn’t. That happens a lot with aging loved ones and the family members who try to take care of them.
But maybe by sharing your story it will help young people like me know what to look for when it becomes our turn to be the sandwich generation.
Thank you for your courage.
P.S. I received a free copy of this book from Booksneeze in exchange for my honest opinions and reviews.