Wow! I really enjoyed reading Love You More, The Divine Surprise of Adopting My Daughter by Jennifer Grant. The very witty author has a lot of shared jokes and insights to offer on general parenting in addition to telling the story of adopting her daughter from Guatemala. I especially chuckled at Grant’s memories of her husband mowing the grass in the dark, because as parents of small children they were constantly so busy. She also does a good job of explaining what motivates parents to adopt.
If I had one criticism of the book, it is that while Grant does an excellent job of explaining the many nuances of feelings that parents and adoptees experience, she only glances over the impact of adoption on her other three children. She briefly mentions the emotions her biological daughter Isabelle feels in the chapter “Post Adoption Blues”, but that’s about it.
As a reader, I immediately identify with Isabelle. When I was little, my parents adopted my sister who was two weeks old at the time. My parents would agree with Jennifer Grant 100% that they knew my sister was their child the moment they saw her. But for me as a nine year old? Heck no! Stories of my immediate jealousy to my new baby sister are the stuff of family legends. Luckily I have grown past this (mostly), and my sister and I are very close as adults. 🙂
Still, I wonder how Isabelle feels knowing that her mother wrote an entire book about adopting Mia. My inner nine-year-old is screaming: “Here it is years later, and Mia is still getting special attention for being adopted!” But in spite of the reemerging sibling rivalry this book is bringing up for me, I’m giving it 5 out of 5 on Amazon. It really is that good.
P.S. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Booksneeze in exchange for writing my honest opinions about it.